The video focuses on the concept of self-consistency, sharing the personal journey of someone who adopted this mental model as a guiding principle. The speaker recounts their experience with insomnia and how this condition led them to discover and embrace self-consistency, highlighting it as a means to ensure internal harmony and balance.

Self-consistency helps individuals maintain confidence and courage through challenges, such as identity crises and societal pressures. By believing in themselves, they can better face fear and dismissiveness from others. The speaker illustrates how self-consistency can increase bravery by accepting and trusting in one's beliefs and actions, thus fostering confidence and a stable self-identity.

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Key Vocabularies and Common Phrases:

1. insomnia [ɪnˈsɒm.ni.ə] - (noun) - A sleep disorder in which people have trouble sleeping. - Synonyms: (sleeplessness, wakefulness, restlessness)

Yes, I got insomnia when I was in grade nine and I think now it is kind of like hikami, one of my best teams, who taught me a life lessons.

2. tumultuous [tuːˈmʌl.tʃu.əs] - (adjective) - Loud, excited, and emotional; involving disorder and confusion. - Synonyms: (turbulent, chaotic, uproarious)

Self consistency is like no matter how tumultuous the outside is, one can always stay calm and have an internal balance in his or her in the world.

3. identity [aɪˈdɛntɪti] - (noun) - The fact of being who or what a person or thing is. - Synonyms: (self, individuality, character)

At first glance you may think I got insomnia or say I have a hard time to fall asleep because of the noises, but actually with a closer look, is how I care about others opinions or say I get a sense of identity from others, which is bad because you can never get satisfied with others opinions and everyone is imperfect.

4. internal harmony [ɪnˈtɜrnl ˈhɑrməni] - (noun) - A peaceful and balanced state within oneself, without internal conflict. - Synonyms: (inner peace, self-alignment, emotional balance)

So it says self consistency is a trait. What is a behavior that one has a high degree of internal harmony or sustainability.

5. self-deceive [sɛlf dɪˈsiːv] - (verb) - To persuade oneself that something false is true. - Synonyms: (delude oneself, fool oneself, deceive oneself)

Why? I say that because unlike your mind that sometimes you may self deceive yourself, your body acts spontaneously as well as intuitively.

6. explicit [ɪkˈsplɪs.ɪt] - (adjective) - Stated clearly and in detail, leaving no room for confusion or doubt. - Synonyms: (clear, direct, unambiguous)

Take insomnia as an example. The explicit one will be, I hear about Moses, but the implicit one will be, I am an overthinker.

7. implicit [ɪmˈplɪsɪt] - (adjective) - Implied though not plainly expressed. - Synonyms: (indirect, unspoken, inherent)

Take insomnia as an example. The explicit one will be, I hear about Moses, but the implicit one will be, I am an overthinker.

8. companions [kəmˈpæn.jənz] - (noun) - A person or animal with whom one spends a lot of time or with whom one travels. - Synonyms: (associates, partners, friends)

Hi guys, I'm Vicki and it is a great honor for me to be here and share with you guys one of my lifelong companions with a friend as well as an adoptable teacher for me, who is actually a concept called self consistency

9. desirable [dɪˈzaɪərəbl] - (adjective) - Worthy of being wanted or sought after. - Synonyms: (attractive, appealing, advantageous)

And let's talk about when you achieve self consistency basically like this, just to get to know yourself and love yourself. There are some other desirable outcomes that will help achieve as well.

10. perfectionist [pəˈfɛkʃənɪst] - (noun) - A person who refuses to accept any standard short of perfection. - Synonyms: (idealist, purist, nitpicker)

And here's a quote that I want to share with every perfectionist like me, that the enemy of good should not be perfect all the time.

Self-consistency - A Way to Be Brave - Hanqi (Vicky) Wang - TEDxYouth@BHIS

Hi guys, I'm Vicki and it is a great honor for me to be here and share with you guys one of my lifelong companions with a friend as well as an adoptable teacher for me, who is actually a concept called self consistency. And basically I'll be talking about self consistency in four aspects. The first one is when did I first learn about it? Secondly, what is self consistency anyway? Thirdly, it's like why should I care about self consistency? And at last, how to achieve them?

And let's get started with our story. I met self consistency. If you kind of know me so well or say, have ever noticed my dark circles? Yes, I got insomnia when I was in grade nine and I think now it is kind of like hikami, one of my best teams, who taught me a life lessons. Because insomnia, if you know, it's kind of like a mental problem. At first glance you may think I got insomnia or say I have a hard time to fall asleep because of the noises, but actually with a closer look, is how I care about others opinions or say I get a sense of identity from others, which is bad because you can never get satisfied with others opinions and everyone is imperfect. So during the process of solving this unnecessary problem with your worry, that's the time when I first learned about self consistency. And throughout the process it kind of helped me to mitigate this problem as well.

But after introducing my real story, I didn't talk about what is self consciousness. So what does that mean? If you look at the dictionary, it will give you two possible definitions. The first one is what we are going to focus about because it's more about personal development and the second one is more academic. So it says self consistency is a trait. What is a behavior that one has a high degree of internal harmony or sustainability. You can ponder over it and think about this concept with a definition.

And at the same time I will also talk about my dedication to it as being a practitioner of self consistencies for over three years. I think you probably already see it on posters. Self consistency is like no matter how tumultuous the outside is, one can always stay calm and have an internal balance in his or her in the world. It's like you are having an internal and stable anchor inside yourself. And if you remember, my topic of today is self consistency, a way to be brave. But I haven't talked about that.

So how self consistency can make us to be brave. And also, why should I even care about self consistency? This concept, in order to answer the first question, I would like to brought up a concept proposed by Prosper Lackey. We'll say a book written by him in 1945. I believe so. In this book he said, once people porn a belief over who they are, they will fight to keep this identity. And normally when they see external changes, they will fight to keep the positive identity.

And I think you can actually conclude it. We say treat this as the power of faith, which is similar with religion. But this time you are not believing your God, but you are believing in yourself. And it is not surprising that once you believe in yourself or say you are thinking that what you did is right, then you are becoming more confident. And once you are becoming more confident, you are becoming braver because you also believe that you are doing something right. And during the process you are getting the courage to be hated as well as to be dismissed. Okay. And I already answered the first question.

The second question is, why should I care about that? Here's a list of, I think, a group of target audiences that I would like you guys to hear. And also I think self consistency is possibly helpful for you. And I won't read it so you guys can take a look at it. And let's get started with how to achieve self consistency.

The most important one that I want to talk about. And the first step is kind of easy as well as stiphut. It's kind of like getting to know yourself. I know it's kind of cliche because everybody talk about this several times, but it's really important because it is a lifelong essence and you are living in your life. So I will treat this process kind of like you are acting like a doctor who diagnoses a patient illness through description.

And this description usually will have explicit as well as implicit causes. Take insomnia as an example. The explicit one will be, I hear about Moses, but the implicit one will be, I am an overthinker. And that's how we can get to know ourselves, kind of from analyzing the problem. And the first step to do that is you have to find a patient. We say, for us, you have to reflect on every distressing experiences that you have experienced through, because what you've been through makes us who you are. And also, it is a great, precious opportunity for you to get to know yourself after reflecting on that.

And the next steps I also want to talk about is after reflecting on experiences is like someone will say, I don't have insomnia, which I never got those distressing experiences before. But there are also a lot of stuff that worth analyzing the first would say the most important rule that you have to follow is to listen to your body. Why? I say that because unlike your mind that sometimes you may self deceive yourself, your body acts spontaneously as well as intuitively. So every time you pay attention to the circumstances that you feel awkward with or say feel uncomfortable with, like during the process, you might get sweating, spawning, trembling, etcetera.

Maybe you feel nervous once you are standing on the stage, like what I am doing now, you can reflect on the reason why you get sweating. Maybe because you think your presentation isn't that good. Maybe because you think you are a stickiness that well, but no matter what you are analyzing the problem and finding the problem. And also the third step of getting to know yourself is to reject some unnecessary values. And believe me, we all were instilled by others on some values that we now may think is incorrect.

For me, I want. But the woman who uses their virginity is dirty, which I will say is completely nonsense and Abrac and I even don't know when did I first learn about it. So I think everybody worth and should have the time to ponder over yourself that you may not believe in what others told you. And when you kind of extract those disturbing factors that make you to kind of make a better decision a lot easier as well as faster. And basically that is how to get to know yourself.

And the second step is about beginning to love yourself. And that's very also kind of easy because fortunately already doing this first step, because it starts to stop. You start to love yourself once you believe that, once they realize that, oh, I'm perfect. And that's what you did in the first step, like you already identified all the problems that you have. So it is kind of like a natural process for you to then gradually you wanted to solve these problems.

And you can solve these problems either by maybe addressing yourself or also seek help from others. It's like from your parents, teachers, classmates, friends, etcetera. Or say, I actually learned an exhibitor of insomnia from. Yes, because around me there weren't a lot of people who experienced insomnia before. So I learned the server of insomnia from this group. That is to let it go and to let go kind of also appreciate concept.

But it is completely different from giving up, I should say, because let alone go is more like a sense of relief. And after accepting yourself. And this is a lot of same thing for a lot of stuff, because once you've got the consequences, like when you get that score, you cannot hop with that. And all you can do is to calm down and console yourself, let it go, and then gradually improve that. And the second one is also about yourself.

Because like I said, everyone has imperfect, so you have to let it go yourself as well. And here's a quote that I want to share with every perfectionist like me, that the enemy of good should not be perfect all the time. I don't want all your guys to be seen in this little dilemma for over a long time. And one is accepting this fact is very important for you to have here later on. And let's talk about when you achieve self consistency basically like this, just to get to know yourself and love yourself.

There are some other desirable outcomes that will help achieve as well. And the first one is you kind of, you can stand in others shoes. And it's another way of saying getting to understand others. And I think it is also very important because for us, we're all living in groups and also humans are collected animals. We cannot live without others. So there are a lot of problems and we'll face the future. Like you have to be compromised.

And one way to make yourself more of kind of accept this consequence is to try to start to understand others and stand in other shoes. Because different people have different experiences as well as backgrounds, knowledge, etcetera. So maybe you can draw some causal relationship between why these people do the things and make yourself to real more complex with. And also trust me because I'm the kind of person I've been through before. I think this lacking would say hating someone is really a time consuming or say energy consuming process.

It's like this person doesn't deserve your much attention on them. So you have to find a way to console yourself. And one thing you can do that is try to stand in father's shoes and maybe can try that in the future as well. And secondly, it's about let it go as well as I mentioned before. But this time I think let it go should begin when you first realize that the only constant in this world is changes.

And that's the absurdity of life. Because there are a lot of things that is not under control, right? We all have to die someday. And also for us it's about depending on application, it's like, oh, have to apply and study hard and get a better job to follow the path, but we cannot help with that because it's like a human specifically evolution. But what you can do is to adjust your attitude towards that. And it doesn't mean that you have to follow this path.

You can change, but when you change, kind of want to share with you guys two questions that you should always ask beforehand. The first one is who am I want to be? It's a pretty but I think it is also necessary because there are a lot of unnecessary competitions. It's like once you realize that maybe your classmates just beside you aren't your competitors because you have different life values and want to be different person in the future, then you are not competitors, you are companions and that will make you and as well as your relationship much better. Once you realize that, and also whenever you want to make a brief choice, the so called brief choice, or say to be yourself, you always have to ask and might be able to accept the consequences to do that.

And if yes, then go for it because that's your life and you are in control. But always remember that to have a second plan because you don't want to be regret and also hit by the fact as well. And although I don't want to talk about that, but it's very important that I have to say self consistency isn't self deceit and I think it is kind of like difference between fake confidence and true confidence. And I can't really help you with that because it is an ethical problem.

But what I can say is it's never too late to change yourself or say to fix the problem that we have done because life is too long. And also from where to go, from where to go. And at last I would like to go back to this insomnia again because once I learned about self consistency and do all this or introduce to you guys today.

Now my insomnia problems are getting much better, although I didn't completely get rid of insomnia, but I didn't have a hard time to fall asleep, let's say maybe lying on a bed for about 3 hours at least. Also I kind of become braver because I dare to say no as well as have the courage to express my true feelings in my circumstances. So that's how life consistency helps me and hope you guys will also benefit with the extreme self consistent in the future. Thank you.

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