The concept of self and self-esteem originates from childhood experiences and plays a significant role in how individuals view their capabilities and potential. Early interactions with parents and surroundings shape one's approach to failure, risk-taking, and personal value. High self-esteem correlates with confidence, risk tolerance, and less concern over others' approval, fostering a resilient mindset in facing life’s challenges.

Understanding negative habit models from childhood, like the inhibitory and compulsive models, helps in reshaping one’s mindset. Fear of failure and rejection stems from early experiences of parental control and the need for approval. Overcoming these fears involves adopting a positive self-talk routine, such as repeating affirmations of ability and worthiness, and focusing on self-love and confidence to break free from past limitations.

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Key Vocabularies and Common Phrases:

1. propensity [prəˈpɛnsɪti] - (noun) - An inclination or natural tendency to behave in a particular way. - Synonyms: (inclination, tendency, predisposition)

you have a natural propensity to become entirely open and trusting, spontaneous and expressive.

2. inhibitory [ɪnˈhɪbɪˌtɔːrɪ] - (adjective) - Tending to prevent or hold back a process or activity. - Synonyms: (restraining, preventative, suppressive)

The first model of negative habit you learn is called the inhibitory negative habit model.

3. spontaneous [spɒnˈteɪnɪəs] - (adjective) - Performed or occurring as a result of a sudden inner impulse or inclination without premeditation. - Synonyms: (impulsive, unplanned, unpremeditated)

When you are an adult and you are surrounded by people you love and trust, you have a natural propensity to become entirely open and trusting, spontaneous and expressive.

4. compulsive [kəmˈpʌlsɪv] - (adjective) - Resulting from or relating to an irresistible urge. - Synonyms: (irresistible, obsessive, uncontrollable)

The second model of negative habit we learn is the compulsive negative habit model.

5. manipulating [məˈnɪpjəˌleɪtɪŋ] - (verb) - To control or influence a person or situation cleverly or unscrupulously. - Synonyms: (controlling, maneuvering, influencing)

Parents often take advantage of their children's need to please them by controlling and manipulating them.

6. reinforcing [ˌriːɪnˈfɔːrsɪŋ] - (verb) - Strengthening or supporting an idea or habit. - Synonyms: (strengthening, bolstering, supporting)

Repetition of these words should be done whenever you are experiencing uncertainty or discomfort.

7. criticism [ˈkrɪtɪˌsɪzəm] - (noun) - The expression of disapproval based on perceived faults or mistakes. - Synonyms: (disapproval, censure, condemnation)

This manifests as the fear of rejection or criticism

8. disapproval [ˌdɪsəˈpruːvl] - (noun) - Possession or expression of an unfavorable opinion. - Synonyms: (criticism, rejection, condemnation)

Your level of self love will determine the degree to which you are concerned about the approval or disapproval of other people

9. self-esteem [ˌsɛlf ɪˈstiːm] - (noun) - Confidence in one's own worth or abilities; self-respect. - Synonyms: (self-respect, dignity, self-regard)

The higher your level of self esteem, the fewer fears and doubts you have.

10. potential [pəˈtɛnʃəl] - (noun) - Latent qualities or abilities that may be developed and lead to future success or usefulness. - Synonyms: (capability, capacity, possibility)

The way a person thinks and feels about themselves in relation to their capabilities and potential is something that is acquired during childhood

The GREATER your SELF-ESTEEM, the less FEARS and DOUBTS you have - Brian Tracy Motivational Speech

There will be a lot of people who are curious about the origin of the concept of self. Where does it come from? For what reason does it grow? What are the primary factors that contribute to the formation of my self concept and how can I make adjustments to it once it has been established? All of these questions are really important and there are specific responses to each and every one of them. The way a person thinks and feels about themselves in relation to their capabilities and potential is something that is acquired during childhood. To put it another way, the more you love yourself, the less fear you have of failing and being rejected.

There is a correlation between having a greater level of self-esteem and having less anxieties and concerns. Your willingness to take risks and persevere through the inevitable setbacks, hurdles and failures that may present themselves is directly proportional to the degree to which you value yourself. Your level of self-love will determine the degree to which you are concerned about the approval or disapproval of other people. Your own route is the one you choose.

There are two characteristics that are inherent to you from the moment you are born into this planet. First and foremost, you are completely fearless in every situation. To tell you the truth, you have no reason to be afraid of anything because you have never been in a situation where you felt terror. The second natural feature that you possess is that you tend to act without any prior planning, without giving it any thought. You are able to laugh, cry, sleep and express yourself without being concerned about what other people might think. These are features that you possessed at birth.

When you are an adult and you are surrounded by people you love and trust, you have a natural propensity to become entirely open and trusting, spontaneous and expressive. This is because you are feeling completely relaxed and secure. To be in this state is the perfect example of a contented and completely functional adult.

From early childhood, and as a consequence of the things your parents do and say, you begin to learn the two basic models of negative habits that will be the most destructive influences in your adult life. The first model of negative habit you learn is called the inhibitory negative habit model. This habit quickly turns into the fear of failure, of taking risks, of losing.

As a child, you are extremely curious. You have the natural need to explore your surroundings and therefore you touch. Try and experiment with everything around you. But often your parents overreact to this behavior prohibiting you. No, stay away. Don't touch that. Leave it.

When your parents get angry about your natural desire to explore the world and your environment, you can't understand that it's because they fear for your safety. Instead, as a child, you respond with the idea that every time I try, test, or touch something new or different, my mother or father gets angry with me. It must be because I am incapable and incompetent. It must be because I am not good. It must be because I cannot do it.

The fear of failing stems from the feeling that I can't do it, which is the origin of the anxiety if you are constantly discouraged or penalized for trying new things when you are a child, you will eventually develop a fear of expanding your horizons and trying new things. The terror that you have will follow you into your teenage years and into adulthood.

If you are an adult and you are considering doing anything that is novel or different or something that entails some degree of risk or uncertainty, your initial response will be I am unable to complete this. As soon as you utter these words, you will quickly begin to contemplate all of the factors that contribute to the fact that you are unable to achieve that particular goal. You will ponder and talk about failure rather than victory. This will be your mentality.

You will be mindful of your insecurities and as well as the potential issues that could arise. It is likely that you will have already distanced yourself from the new experience before you even attempt it.

During his presentation, Napoleon Hill, the author of Think and Grow Rich Sound Wisdom 2016, asked his audience the following on average, how many times does a person try something new before giving up on the idea? After a number of responses, he finally provided the answer that was correct. Fewer than once. He was referring to the fact that individuals give up before they even make an attempt.

As soon as a new goal comes to mind, the majority of individuals immediately answer with the words I can't and then begin to think about all the reasons why they are unable to achieve it. This is occurring despite the fact that they want to improve their lives, increase their income, and accomplish more than they are already doing currently.

If you want to be happier and more successful, the most important habit you can establish is the practice of believing and repeating to yourself, I can do anything I set my mind to. This is the habit that will bring you the most happiness and success. The phrase I can do it, I can do it is the most powerful phrase that you need to say again and over in order to conquer the fear of failing and to neutralize the fear of failing.

The words you can do anything you set your mind to are among the most heartfelt expressions that a parent may say to their child. In addition to the phrases I love you, the impact that the words you can do it spoken by another person, whether it be a parent, a relative or a friend can have on a person's life, is extraordinary and frequently takes one by surprise.

The second model of negative habit we learn is the compulsive negative habit model. This manifests as the fear of rejection or criticism. We are all sensitive to the opinions of others, especially the responses and reactions of our parents when we are growing up. Parents often take advantage of their children's need to please them by controlling and manipulating them.

Parents give their approval and support or take it away based on the child's behavior at any given moment. When the child does or says something that the parents don't like, they immediately disapprove and criticize. Since parental support and approval are like a psychological lifeline for the child's emotional health, the child immediately moves away from that behavior to regain their parents love and approval.

Parents quickly fall into the habit of manipulating the child with the carrot and stick tactic. They alternate between approval and disapproval, praise and criticism to control and manipulate the child's behavior. Because you are still a child, you are not old enough to comprehend what is taking place. You are just aware of the fact that the affection and approval of your parents are essential to your overall health and happiness. They hold the promise of restoring your mental well-being.

This teaches you that if I want us to get along, I need to pay attention to what they have to say. Beginning when you are a child, you begin to evaluate and adjust your actions in order to gain the approval of your parents and to avoid their displeasure. You notice that as you get older, you become more sensitive to the acceptance or disapproval of other people, including members of your family, friends and co-workers.

The child is unable to comprehend the mentality that underlies their parents behavior. Every time I do something that my mother or father doesn't like, they stop loving me. The child simply thinks to themselves without any further explanation. Because of this, I am obligated to give them whatever it is that brings them joy at all times. All I can do is do what they want me to do. If I want to feel protected, I have no choice than to comply with their demands. It is common for people to convey their worries by saying something like I have to do it.

An adult who was subjected to disapproval and destructive criticism as a child will be hypersensitive to the attitudes and opinions of others. I always have to do this or I have to do that. When the fear of rejection is extreme, the person is so sensitive to others opinions that they cannot make a decision until they are absolutely convinced that everyone involved will approve and support their decision. Young people become extremely sensitive to what their peers like or dislike. Instead of being bold, spontaneous, open, honest and expressive, they begin to model their behaviors to fit what they think their peers will approve of at that moment.

One of the greatest discoveries in high performance personality development is that your fears and your level of self-esteem have an opposite or inverse relationship. In other words, the more you love yourself, the less fear you have of failure and rejection. The higher your level of self esteem, the fewer fears and doubts you have.

The more you value yourself, the more willing you are to take risks and endure the inevitable setbacks, obstacles and failures that may occur. The more you love yourself, the less you worry about others, approval or disapproval. You follow your own path.

We have indicated in the past that the most effective method for boosting one's self-esteem and self-confidence, as well as overcoming the worries that stem from one's childhood, is to repeatedly repeat the phrase I love myself. Repetition of these words should be done whenever you are experiencing uncertainty or discomfort.

Your self-esteem and self-confidence should be improved on a regular basis and voluntarily, as this is the most critical habit you should cultivate if you want to become a billionaire. Your level of self-assurance, optimism and bravery will increase in direct proportion to the amount of positive words, images and thoughts that you allow to enter your head.

To the extent that you love yourself, you will be able to perform better in anything that you attempt to achieve. As you develop a deeper love for yourself, you will have less anxiety around setbacks and challenges. When you love yourself more, you will face the inevitable ups and downs of life with greater courage and resilience. This is because you will have more love for yourself.

In addition, the more you love yourself, the more you would want to persevere in order to attain success. self-esteem is the most important thing if you want to reach your full potential. There are four other mental laws you need to know and work with to reach your full potential.

The first of these is the Law of Habit. This law states that anything you do repeatedly will eventually become a new habit. This means you can develop any habit by repeating it enough times and for long enough.

The second law you need to know and use is the Law of Emotion. This law states that any action you take is stimulated by an emotion, whether positive or negative. Think of emotions as a fire. To keep the fire burning, you must continuously add logs.

If you stop doing so, it will eventually go out. The things you think about are like the logs on the fire. If you constantly think about what you want and how to achieve it. Your mental abilities will increasingly focus on achieving the goals you have set.

But since the amount of time you can think is limited, when you force yourself to think only about what you want, you stop thinking about what you don't want. You stop feeding the fire of your negative emotions, and therefore the fire eventually goes out. You begin to eliminate the fears and doubts that paralyze you.

This leads us to the Law of Concentration, which claims that whatever you concentrate on within your life will grow and expand as a result of your efforts. To put it another way, whatever you think about the majority of the time grows in size.

In the event that you give something a great deal of thought, your feelings and mental energy will be directed toward it. The more you think about your objectives and the means by which you may accomplish them, the more quickly you will move closer to achieving them.

Because of this, you will discover more emotional energy in them, and you will have less energy available to deal with the issues, anxieties, and concerns that most people find bothersome. That is the final point.

According to the law of Subconscious Action. According to this law, your subconscious mind is able to accept any notion, plan, or goal that is produced by your conscious mind. It then arranges your thoughts and behaviors in order to make that goal a reality. Any idea or objective that you make a habit of reiterating in your conscious mind will eventually be accepted by your subconscious mind.

Your subconscious will begin to work around the clock to synchronize your thoughts, words, and actions in order to bring about the realization of those goals once they have been accepted. Think about only one thing. Your conscious mind cannot hold more than one positive or negative thought at a time.

You can think about hundreds of things, but at any given moment, you can only think about one thing and you are free to choose what you want to think about. An essential habit of success is the habit of keeping your mind clearly focused on the goals you want to achieve and the actions you need to take to achieve them.

When you get used to thinking and talking most of the time about where you are going and how to get there, you are fully controlling the development of your self-concept and your personality. You press the accelerator of your own potential. You move into the fast lane of your life. You start moving at a surprising speed for yourself and those around you.

Again, your potential is unlimited. You have a tremendous amount of potential and qualities that have not yet been recognized, and you are an outstanding individual. What you have accomplished in your life up to this point is but a pale reflection of what you are capable of accomplishing in the future, you are almost limitless in terms of what you are capable of doing, being and possessing.

With the exception of the limitations that you impose on yourself through your beliefs, only the human being is capable of reprogramming itself and altering the path that their life takes. Out of all the animals that are currently in existence inside the universe at this very moment, you have the ability to make the decision to take charge of yourself and mold and sculpt your self-concept in order to become the finest possible version of yourself.

By releasing your subconscious breaks, overcoming your fear of failure and rejection and cultivating your self esteem and self confidence through positive self talk you will be able to unleash your potential and accomplish any goal that you have set for yourself.

By accepting complete responsibility for the formation of your self-concept you will be building the groundwork for the habits of a billionaire which will enable you to accomplish more in the following two years than any average person accomplishes in their entire lifetime.

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